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Own Your Brand!

February 13, 2018 by David

Stop Hiding What Makes You Great

Is 2018 the year you step forward and present your authentic self to the world?

Do you want clients that are a better match? Customers that appreciate you? Vendors that “get” what is important to you?

Volunteer and non-profit opportunities that “click” with your values?

In my new book, Own Your Brand I explain how to use the popular LinkedIn service to present yourself and your abilities to a worldwide audience of 467 million people, following a proven step-by-step method.

The book guides you through a process that uncovers your abilities and capabilities, and helps you define yourself through specific techniques and numerous examples, just as dozens of my clients have done in the past several years.

You can buy it on Amazon (or get the Kindle version).

Barnes & Noble also has it. And 800-CEO-READ provides the book with volume discounts.

And my old friends at Powell’s Books in Portland, Oregon are stocking it too.


What They’re Saying About Own Your Brand:

I have found that David Billstrom’s wise counsel goes to the soul of meaningful living.  He is a gifted consigliere in the very best sense of providing strategic insight, tactical acumen and prescient context in the adventure of finding your authentic self.

David has the extraordinary ability to help executives and leaders learn powerful business and life lessons from others’ experience — as if we ourselves went through their journey.  In this book, he’s put the skills and insights down on paper, and we’re the winners.

– Reuven Carlyle Washington State Senator, Business Strategist


Learn more about my books on my website.

Filed Under: Coaching, Entrepreneurs, Marketing, Sometimes A Blog

Stop Trying to Get Married On The First Date (How to Recruit Talent)

January 19, 2018 by David

Almost by definition, every client I work with has plenty of experience finding employees, interviewing them, and hiring them.

A few might even have experience firing them, but not often (and that’s a topic for a different day). So they’ve got the minimum qualifications to recruit, right?

Um, well, not usually.

The “great” companies, whether they are publicly traded monoliths like Google, Intel, and Microsoft or tiny, svelt startups with halo venture capital backing, all share a common trait: the best talent wants to work there, and it is quite difficult to even get an interview at one of these companies, let alone a job. How did they get that way?

I counsel my clients recruiting talent to aim for this lofty goal: so many great candidates that you’re turning them away, picking and choosing among the talent pool to craft just the right mix of team members.

Very few entrepreneurial teams enjoy that kind of recruiting pool. But they can…

There are many components to creating a great team — company mission, leadership, awesome funding, great colleagues from the first day of company life, effective value system, and commercial success. There is nothing like the unmistakable smell of success. That brings in the stars.

But obviously a startup doesn’t have commercial success. And all will need to recruit before first revenue, let alone, profitability. But every other characteristic is achievable, even for a startup. How?

This is Sales

The first step is to confront in the reality of recruiting… is that this is just another form of sales.

And if you’ve been following along so far, you know that my definition of sales is “the effective influence of other people to do what you want, resulting in both you and them being quite happy with the outcome.”

We’re not trying to manipulate people here, and we’re certainly not seeking to get people to perform unnatural acts. But we are attempting to connect A with B, where both are happy.

And influencing people means work, and that means there needs to be a method.

More on the method in a moment — first, let’s also review another maxim: youhave to do it. The founders are best served if they themselves do the recruiting, and do it for months, if not years into the future.

Interview any successful founder, and they will recount their successes in terms of their team members. They’ll also recount that their biggest regrets are in the employees they either didn’t recruit (because they stepped away from the method) or they didn’t recruit effectively.

But Its Not Just For Founders

If you’re not the founder, there is still reason to develop recruiting skills.

The CEO that follows the founder; the second-in-command who helps lead the organization (e.g. COO, CFO, et al.) and even the department head (e.g. VP Engineering, Director of Marketing, et al.) will enjoy their job more, and experience a more successful career, if they are excellent in recruiting.

Companies are teams of people, and in most businesses and industries, the team is the key asset.

Heck, this is true in government agencies, academia, and in non-profits.

And I’ll go one step further, whether your growth has slowed, or you are doubling in size every year, you will be happier as a leader if you have a surplus of talent available in your pool of potential employees.

Always Be Recruiting

In other words, you should always be recruiting, even when you don’t currently have an opening. Whether or not you have an open position to fill today is a detail; the key is to have a talent pool.

Look around at the leaders in business and in non-profit organizations that you admire; notice that there are always talented staff that have worked with her before? They’re always recruiting.

The Method

There are just a five simple steps to my recruiting method:

#1 Write the job description. The usual classic way; I won’t belabor the point. But here is one difference: be sure to cover what you’ll accept as truly the absolute minimum qualification, so that it’s clear where the entry point is — don’t rely on a laundry list of desirable “nice to have” attributes.

At the same time, describe what you’d like “in the ideal candidate”, and don’t be afraid to dream big.

#2 Verify the job description with your team, and especially the leadership of the team. Listen carefully to their feedback, and be prepared to discuss this job in the context of other positions, both proposed and existing.

Often the discussion of the description surfaces previously latent questions about who does what; many organizations are evolving so quickly that the written descriptions haven’t kept up with reality. This is good, a sign of growth. But…

You don’t think you have enough time for this formality? Beware — in my experience the only other alternative is that the disagreement or misunderstanding about what the candidate will actually be doing… comes out during the interview process, in front of the candidate!

At best this is distracting, and at worst it can create fear, or even disgust from the candidate’s perspective. You want great candidates, they’ll sniff this out in a second. You’ve probably experienced this yourself.

In a fast-moving, high-growth organization, you might be surprised how often this happens. It is a real turn-off for the very best candidates, so get it right before they arrive.

#3 Write an advertisement, to attract candidates — and don’t publish that job description. Make it like the personals ads that ran in weekly newspapers in the 80s. While this art form has now largely atrophied, the point was to use the fewest amount of words to attract the maximum amount of candidates for a romantic date (papers charged by the word).

This generally goes better if you set aside the job description you honed in Step #2 and start with a blank piece of paper.

What is a personals ad? It has a hook or two to attract a potential date, and it describes just a bit of yourself — but the best ones keep this very brief. And above all, it contains an effective Call To Action. Less is more.

The business version of this is designed to get candidates. Not qualified employees, but candidates. Ideally your ad is so short, so relevant, so entertaining… members of your network are happy to forward it by email along to their network (more on that in a moment).

We all know the old maxim “no resume ever got a job” (only an interview). The same principle applies to job listings.

This is an ad — not a legal document that will be used 6 months from now to determine if the hired employee was successful. It is simply intended to get candidates.

Ditch the legalese… and the boilerplate.

In fact, if you detail in fine precision all the qualifications you want from the candidate, you will do a great job of attracting candidates who are obsessed with qualifications. Worse, they themselves are only impressed with companies that have lots of employees with lots of qualifications. Folks, that’s not startup material.

Let’s refine our goal: You don’t want to attract “qualified” candidates. You want to attract candidates that will perform beyond expectations and be a good fit with the team.

And publishing the job description? Way too much, too soon. It’s like handing out the answer key before the test. It’s like trying to find a spouse on the first date. Slow down, keep it light and lively.

#4 Use Your Network. Although I’m not biased against candidates that are unemployed and looking for a job (I’ve been there), in general you’d prefer candidates that aren’t really actively looking.

There are several reasons for this including: you can evaluate their recent performance, you see them in their native environment, and most importantly, you are unlikely to have to compete against other job offers, because they weren’t out collecting them.

If the candidate isn’t looking for you (because they’re employed), then you’ll have to look for them. This is easier than it sounds.

If you are a good leader, and your organization is doing interesting stuff, then I guarantee you that there are numerous people in your network who would love to have a small role in the movie called “my friend got this great job that was perfect for them.”

So after you have your ad in Step #3, then start sending it by email to selected individuals in your network.

Post it on Facebook. Put it in Linkedin.

Make it personal — so that it will be forwarded in a personal way. You want the 1:1 effect, not the broadcast method!

#5 You Do The Selection. Because your ad will be great at attracting interesting people, casting a wide net, you’ll have lots of culling to do.

This is a good thing.

You want to do the mapping of their experience to your needs — you don’t want them to do it for you, before you even get a chance to know they exist.

What I mean is that you are looking for a fit, and you know your organization best, and you know the specific challenges of the open position. An outsider and stranger would struggle to understand. So don’t let them rule you out, just because they don’t understand your team.

Cast a wide net, and look for fit, not credentials. If you get caught up in pattern-matching with traditional credentials you would miss a young Steve Jobs, young Bill Gates, and a host of other hardcore, top performers. Heck, you’d miss me.

For example, one of my clients was looking for a key employee in his new company, and understandably he listed “10 years experience as Director of Blah Blah required”. I immediately queried if he would take someone with 5 years experience if the 5 years was spent at the competing, premier company in Silicon Valley for that skill — and yes, of course he would.

Something as basic as years-of-experience is fungible. So why list it? You might miss a great candidate.

Putting It All Together

Here is a great example of a “personals ad” I saw a several years ago on an email list I was watching:

Date: Wed, Dec 1, 2010 at 4:25 PM

Subject: [SeattleTech] [JOB] Technical Program Manager at {name}

To: Seattle Tech Startups <organize@seattletechstartups.com>

{name} is hiring a Technical Program Manager

If you’re interested or have questions… I’d be more than happy to answer. But here are the important things:

You’ll be working on a product that people are paying for. They pay for it, and are happy to pay for it.

You’ll be working with a solid product team. Kick-ass and fun. Also, we’ve got years of start-up experience under our belts.

Do you like Chinese food? we do.

You’ll be working for the same guy that mentored me in my first PM roles. He’s awesome, and you’ll be a better PM and probably a better person after working for him.

We have a ton of data, and perform mind-boggling complex analytics on them. Then, we have to transform that into something that is easily digestable and understandable.

Let me know if you’re interested.

—

Adam

Okay, let’s notice a few things in this fabulous email:

First, there are no qualifications or specifics. This is not a job description. They’re keeping their cards close about who they want, but did you even notice?

If you’re a candidate… you will see the vocabulary “Technical Program Manager” and “PM” and “complex analytics” and you’ll get it, if you’re qualified in the most general sense.

While I’ve protected their identity here with the { symbols }, in the actual email it would be trivial to go visit their site and get some basic due diligence.

I would consider leaving the identity of your company completely out, so that candidates can’t go visit your site and make a decision before making contact with you.

But alternatively, if you’re in a strong position, why not let it be known… make that due diligence possible by naming names.

Second, it is personal. He wrote it like he was talking to a buddy or maybe old college friend. So I am drawn in, but at the same time its appropriate. I could have met Adam at a conference last week.

I’m going to read this, unlike most of the job openings that show up on this list… yawn, I’m too busy. By being personal it is both accessible and differentiated from the boilerplate listings.

Third, it is specific about fit. The cultural fit will determine success in a way that academic degrees and work history rarely do. While he is not specific about job qualifications, he is specific about the culture and where their startup is in the growth path… to anyone with any kind of startup experience under their belt, he’s provided the credibility… up front… that they are “successful” with specific metrics (revenue, price points).

In other words, if I have the relevant experience… I’m probably attracted to this pragmatic, upfront, open discussion of key metrics. Bingo!

Fourth, it is a sell. “you’ll be a better PM and probably a better person after working for him” — wow. Now you couldn’t say this about every open position… or could you?

As we would say in marketing, this is an explicit benefit statement… rather than the feature listing (“experienced management team”, “learning opportunities”, “opportunity for growth”, blah blah blah).

He is making an explicit conclusion about what you would get out of this gig, connecting the dots.

Fifth, a call to action. Adam offers to take questions. Note that he’s not the hiring manager. He doesn’t say send your application in to HR. He says he’ll take questions.

I don’t know what Adam will do, but I do know when I’m in this position… the moment I answer that first question, I start asking my own questions (See the chapter on Sales as Discovery).

In other words, he’s keeping the bar low and available, and if the query isn’t from a suitable candidate, that unsuitable candidate may just know others who… are suitable.

What a priceless opportunity.

Why is this “ad” so effective? It is personal, relevant, casts a wide net, and has a hook.

This is what you want to aspire towards to collect meaningful candidates, and help build the reputation of your company. If you were a potential investor, this email alone might inspire you to take a closer look at this particular company. And current team members, investors, and stakeholders might even be inspired.

There is no downside to this approach in recruiting. It is quite literally win-win-win.

In my next piece, I’ll talk about interview methodology, the next step.

Filed Under: Coaching, Entrepreneurs, Leadership, Sometimes A Blog

What Do You Really Want?

February 19, 2013 by David

As a venture capitalist, I met many engineers attempting to raise money for their startup tech company dream.  A pattern quickly emerged, which I hadn’t expected.  They couldn’t tell me why they wanted to start a company.

Often there was no passion as they struggled to explain Why.  And frankly, their explanation often sounded scripted.  Understandably, they were trying to tell me what they thought I wanted to hear – a common symptom when founders are trying to raise money.

As the pattern further developed, I eventually realized that they weren’t capitalists.  Almost none could tell me what their business model was for their company, let alone tell it with passion.  The simple reason: they weren’t passionate about the business.

This alone wasn’t reason enough to turn them down, but it was a huge red flag.  You won’t find many successful businesses, let alone high-risk speculative startups, without a passionate leader to take them through the very tough parts.  They have to really, really want it.

In fact, one prominent angel investor I work with told me years ago that he has never lost money when the founder was pursuing his or her passion – its not his only requirement for investing, but it is his most important one.

As it turned out, I found that many startup founders were primarily motivated by the desire to have independence.  Simply put, they wanted to control what they worked on, to choose who they worked with, and even the office space in which they worked.

And they didn’t realize it.

There are two problems with this.  First, they’re usually not going to get funded.  Passion for obsessive control is not a successful investment criteria for any investor (regardless of the homilies for Steve Jobs).

Second, if they somehow succeed in getting funded due to special circumstances (e.g. misrepresenting their motive of control; a frothy market for investment in the category; luck) they will be replaced as the leader by their investors at the first opportunity.

And this is truly unfortunate.  Reputations will suffer, months or even years of work will be sacrificed, and often teams will splinter irreparably, despite long-term relationships.  And the founder won’t get what they wanted in the first place!

This is just one example of misery due to not understanding what you Really Want. There are others…

You probably know a lawyer or two who are miserable in their chosen profession, despite having loved law school.

Engineers who discover they love teaching far more than working as an engineer.

And technical founders that never really wanted to run a business and revel in capitalism.

Often this can be avoided by a practice of mindful choices, along with a few tools.

Wants

Most of my clients are familiar with a simple, but demanding exercise I take them through.  I’ll summarize the key concepts for you here:

First, we need to distinguish between what we Want from what we Need.  Wants are aspirational, often thoughtful and informed.

For instance, if asked, most entrepreneurs will say that they Want “Integrity” in their life.  After all, who would say they don’t want to act with integrity?   Other examples include the Want for “Creating”, “To Be Appreciated” and “Financial Success”.

The exercise I use guides you through the thought experiment of trading off various Wants against each other, so that you can decide their relative importance in your future decisions.  A simplistic example would be “Choose one of Rich and Famous, but not both… which do you want?”

There is no right answer, and so the exercise is to determine your most important Wants. 

Of course, you could avoid the hard work, and make a list of 20 or even 30 aspirational goals, something like “To always act with integrity, while becoming rich and famous, and controlling every single thing and also being appreciated as a loving sensitive person who can relate to anyone… etc. etc.” but it wouldn’t be very practical.  Or realistic.

And the research shows that we can handle a limited number of goals and aspirations at any given time; I usually suggest no more than five.

Part of the exercise is designed to “get around” the intellectual, analytic part of our mind that tries to run most of the decision-making and goal-making in our lives… and get to latent Wants that have gone unnoticed because it’s not part of the intellectual, theoretical view of ourselves that we hold (or that we inherited from our parents).

Clients often uncover Wants that are deeply meaningful and touching, that didn’t make their first draft list of the most important.  This is when individuals sometimes realize (for instance) that they’ve always loved teaching; they’ve always loved tinkering; they’ve always loved creating products. 

Now we’re getting somewhere!

(And my investor colleagues would be interested in hearing about a startup that taps a founder’s life-long passion).

Needs

The second aspect of this topic is understanding your underlying Needs. Needs are the fundamental requirements that you can’t modify.

For example, one of my clients knows from long experience that she “needs” demanding cardio exercise at least every other day, if not 5-6 days a week.  Without enough of it, her physical self affects her mental self, and thus professional effectiveness, even her personal relationships.  She becomes edgy, even a little depressed.  If you aren’t like this, you probably know someone who is.  This isn’t a “Want” because it isn’t aspirational, and she can’t really “control” it in any simple way, it is an underlying drive.

A darker example of a Need would be an alcoholic that needs a drink, or really any addiction, including the addiction to always be working.

We will do almost anything for a Need – such as those previously described Founders who fib to their investors (and/or themselves) about their Need for control.

The relevance of the Need is that we want to understand it, without judgment.

Why?  Simply put, Needs that aren’t understood and identified, have a habit of sabotaging our work, our journey, and our relationships.  Regardless of whether it is a positive Need such as needing daily exercise, or a negative Need, such as controlling every small detail in product development, the first step is identifying it.

This part can be tough – our self-image, let alone our professional image or “brand” may not easily accommodate the insights about our Needs.

This process must be confidential, or the client will avoid the less flattering Needs or may not be able to admit to themselves what they really Want for fear of being seen impractical, greedy, or even unworthy.  This is one of the reasons why this can be very hard work.

But it is essential.  Even if there are no grand revelations, and the Wants and Needs documented through the exercise were known to the client all along, the clarity and written record creates a measuring stick that can be applied to future decisions.

I often encourage clients to review their final Wants/Needs inventory on a periodic basis, and when faced with a difficult decision.  They can remind themselves why they may be tilting in a particular way on the decision, and with this self-awareness, make a better decision consistent with their long-term goals.

And those unfundable technical founders I kept meeting in venture capital pitches?  They were mistaking their Need for control to be a Want for entrepreneurial work.

They will be far more successful if they find a role where their control requirements are a welcome attribute, or by partnering with an entrepreneurial leader who is passionate about capitalism.  And in the end, they’ll be far more happy, getting what they really Need.

 

Filed Under: Coaching, Entrepreneurs, Sometimes A Blog Tagged With: business venture, entrepreneur, founder, goals, passion, shared values, startup

My Role in Your Success

February 8, 2013 by David

I’ve been ruminating on why I so thoroughly love my job… and this morning I received another reminder.

One of my clients related how he landed a client this week, following a methodology for presenting his proposal & price. He got the project he wanted, at the price he wanted, and the kind of client he wanted. It was his first sale.

Ever.

In fact, he hasn’t even left his current employer; he’s been developing his new start-up for months (years?) and was still developing concepts… when an opportunity arose.

Me? My role was helping him understand the sales cycle, the role of the proposal… specifically content, timing, and how-to-present. He confessed it didn’t seem natural to him, and the methodology flew in the face of what he knew of “sales” (largely informed by Hollywood). But he held the faith, and did it.
And nailed it.

I can’t tell you the deep satisfaction it gave me to hear this. About 1,000% more satisfying than if I had done the deed. It’s one thing to do it yourself; it’s quite another to help someone tap your years of experience and do it themselves. Then you know you what you do, and how you do it, matters.

I’ll be talking more about how this happens, and why, in a future newsletter.

K Grainger Win
But for today, let’s celebrate his victory.

Another business launches…

Filed Under: Coaching, Sales, Sometimes A Blog Tagged With: clients, coach, entrepreneur, founder, sales

About the Logo

February 23, 2012 by David

The Flashing Red Light logo

A flashing red light

 

“A beacon is an intentionally conspicuous device designed to attract attention to a specific location.  Beacons can also be combined with semaphoric or other indicators to provide important information, such as status of an airport, by the colour and rotational pattern of its airport beacon, or of pending weather as indicated on a weather beacon mounted at the top of a tall building or similar site.  When used in such fashion, beacons can be considered a form of optical telegraphy.

Beacons help guide navigators to their destinations.  Classically, beacons were fires lit at well-known locations on hills or high places, used either as lighthouses for navigation at sea, or for signaling over land that enemy troops were approaching, in order to alert defenses.

As signals, beacons are an ancient form of optical telegraphy, and were part of a relay league.”

— Wikipedia http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Beacon

Flashing Red Light is a coaching practice intended to draw your attention to specific issues, make conscious decisions to navigate to your selected destination, and include you in a network or relay league of like-minded entrepreneurs and executives for mutual benefit.  And thus, the beacon featured in the logo.

Of course I also have a fondness for radio towers and emergency vehicles, but that’s just a happy coincidence, a kind of triple entendre.

Filed Under: Coaching, Sometimes A Blog

Coaching for Doctors

October 4, 2011 by David

The always articulate and insightful Atul Gawande explains in the New Yorker magazine how coaching might improve almost anyone, not just athletes and singers… he’s a surgeon, and he got a coach, and improved.

Fascinating: http://www.newyorker.com/reporting/2011/10/03/111003fa_fact_gawande?currentPage=all

Filed Under: Coaching, Sometimes A Blog Tagged With: coach, leadership, measurable objectives, new yorker magazine

How To Choose A Coach

August 6, 2011 by David

Chapter 2

(From my upcoming book)

 

You’ve probably heard how fantastic coaches can be, and how they can truly leverage your commitment and investment.  You’re wondering if that’s really true, and if it is, how do you choose one?  And you may be wondering if the expense is worth it.

In general, coaching in almost any discipline or sport is “worth” it because the one-on-one attention can be so productive.  It is scarcely imaginable that a sports team could exist, let alone consistently win, without a leader with more experience than the players, the benefit of a “big picture” perspective, possession of a literal or figurative book of strategy, and the objectivity inherent in standing on the sidelines.  While there are exceptions to this rule, where the coach is also one of the players, the weighty load of leadership combined with sheer scale quickly pushes “player/coaches” exclusively into the coaching role — successful company officers in the military are continually promoted to roles away from the sharp end of the spear.  There is a long tradition of successful performance of individuals counseled and aided by effective coaches.

My First Coach

While both of my parents seem to have had the “math gene”, I credit my Uncle Stephen (an honorary title) for my achievements in math, high school Advanced Placement status, and a lifelong comfort with numbers and calculation.  He was my one-on-one tutor at the end of fifth grade.

Freed from the constraints of other students and a regulated pace, we quickly covered the necessary ground of my delinquency — to my parent’s horror I had somehow avoided learning my multiplication tables, and thus the recruitment of Uncle Stephen, a math professor from a university in Budapest, recently fled to the U.S..  Within weeks, we were covering elementary algebra, and then to my delight, moving on to geometry and base number systems other than 10, and so on.  Late into high school I would suddenly realize in class that I already had covered the material with Uncle Stephen, 5 to 6 years earlier.  What a gift.

If I have a profound regret in my 30 year career, it is my relatively late (and weak) adoption of mentors and coaches along the way.  Despite the deep lesson of Uncle Stephen, I made it a regular practice to go it alone, to tough it out, to prove to myself (and my parents, and others) that I “could do it myself.”  It wasn’t just that I had something to prove, it was a source of comfort and reassurance to myself that I was worthy, valid, and capable.  Even today, I value self-reliance and competence among the highest accomplishments one can achieve.  And it isn’t any coincidence that this is a measure that one can take of one’s self — external objectivity doesn’t seem necessary.  One can be self-reliant in measuring one’s self-reliance!

See where this is going?

Many, if not most, of the entrepreneurs I have met in the hundreds of startup companies that have contacted me for investment, endorsement, and assistance fit this profile.  They are confident, armored with thick skin, and ready to prove themselves.  And perhaps too ready to prove that they can do it without help.

What’s Important About Your Coach

As with any close working relationship, the first requirement is communication.  You’re going to want someone you feel comfortable talking to, and what that really means is that from your first interaction with a prospective coach, you should feel like you are heard.

I mean “heard” in the fullest sense of the concept — pauses where they listen, questions that clarify and confirm what they thought they heard you say (so that they can fine-tune what they heard), and the hard-to-describe sense that they “get it” about what you just said.  The style and specific tactics for achieving this will vary from coach to coach, but the results are easy to feel.  You are heard.

This isn’t just because it feels good to be heard (it does).  It is essential that they get your perspective, because they can’t help you achieve your goals unless they can hear you describe them.  And this isn’t just a one time deal — your goals will probably evolve, and certainly your situation will evolve.

By the way, their ability to “get what you’re saying” should be relatively instantaneous.  Their ability to “get you” and understand who you are, and where you are coming from, well that might take a while.

If you have any doubts about the listening abilities of your prospective coach (or your current coach!) then it isn’t a good match.

Shared Values

As we will discuss in another chapter, I’ve found that we’ve all developed coping strategies for getting along with other people.  Scientists have worked to quantify this, and better understand this, but to summarize their results — entrepreneurs are generally more successful when they have a highly defined “EQ”, emotional intelligence.  In contrast to I.Q., the ability to reason, use metaphors, and solve problems, EQ can be broadly defined as relating well to other people and communicating effectively with a broad spectrum of personality types.  For many experienced business people, it is no surprise that EQ is an indicator of success in business, particularly in new ventures.

Yet if you benefit from this advantageous attribute, it can undermine your choice of a coach.  In other words, just because you can get along with nearly anyone, don’t use that low hurdle in evaluating the fit of your prospective coach to your style of interaction.  Raise the bar, and seek a coach with whom you have shared values.

The coach-client relationship is most effective when it is intimate, in the sense that any subject, problem, or issue is within bounds.  Even extroverts may not share everything they feel, fear or hope for with their friends and colleagues.  Discussing fears and goals are part of the coaching process, but you’re just not going to get your full value unless you disclose them.  And you’re unlikely to do that with someone you can “get along with” but with which you share few values.

How do you determine your values, and your prospective coach’s values?

[to be continued]

Filed Under: Coaching, Excerpts from the Upcoming Book, Sometimes A Blog Tagged With: business venture, coach, communication, emotional intelligence, endorsement, entrepreneur, goals, investment, leader, leadership, mentor, officer, shared values, startup

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